Pseudo Relationship aka Fling

Almost like a relationship, but not
quite.

It is a phase where the persons
involved are
more than friends, but not quite
lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement,
puwedeng wala.

One or both of you may have admitted
your
feelings, possible ding hindi.

You just let your gestures do the
talking for
you.

Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.

Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos
niyo,
sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo,pero
hindi.

This kind of “relationship” can happen
at
different stages for different reasons.

It can happen after a break-up.

You still love each other, and you
want to be
with each other but you broke up for a
reason.

And for reasons that you alone know,
ayaw
niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a
relationship,
iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.

Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-
seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang. (tama ba un?! ang sakit
ah!!!)

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.
(SANA
NGA!!!!!!!)

Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-
break
doon sa boy/girl (sabi niya makikipag-
break
siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa),
wala muna kayong relasyon para nga

naman hindi siya nangangaliwa

kasi “hindi naman kayo.”

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a
time,
can be fun.

Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman
ng “KALARO.”

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may
patutunguhan kayo kze wala talagang
kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman
sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba’t ibang dahilan.

Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng “buti na iyan kesa wala” or
puwede na iyang “pantawid-gutom.”

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think that

pseudo-
relationship is better than no
relationship at
all.

It would be fun, if all you’re after
is that “kilig”
feeling.

But then I learned that although it was
only a pseudo-relationship, the
emotions
were REAL.

And usually, in this kind of set up,
merong
malulugi..

“ung nainlove sa taong taken na..”

Una, you can’t ask him/her to commit.

Since it’s not really a relationship,
you CANT
DEMAND COMMITMENT from your partner.

Ano ba kayo?

You will always be uncertain
about your role in his/her life.

You can’t expect him/her
to be always there with you.

And if you feel jealous of the other
boys/girls,
you just have to keep it to yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if
you fall deeply in love with him/her?

You can’t be sure if he/she feels the
same
way.

Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying
to tell him/her you love him/her,
you can’t.

Because you’re not sure
if he/she will like it.

Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached
too

much?

What if you have invested
all your emotions and this man/woman
hasn’t?

What if you remain faithful to him/her,
not entertaining other guys/gals,
only to find out that he/she is seeing
other girls/boys?

isa pang downside ng pseudo-
relaionships, it is fleeting

when a disagreement sets in,
or when one of you gets cold,
then that would be the end of it.

Unlike in a serious relationship
hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa
isang pseudo-relationship.

wla kang ping-hahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo-relationship,

there is no “us”.

Meron lang “you and Me”,

hindi “US”

*******

taken from: Carcalvin (http://carcalvin.multiply.com), thanks bro.

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