Pseudo Relationship aka Fling
Almost like a relationship, but not
It is a phase where the persons
more than friends, but not quite
Puwedeng may verbal agreement,
One or both of you may have admitted
feelings, possible ding hindi.
You just let your gestures do the
Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.
Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos
sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo,pero
This kind of “relationship” can happen
different stages for different reasons.
It can happen after a break-up.
You still love each other, and you
want to be
with each other but you broke up for a
And for reasons that you alone know,
niyo na muna magkabalikan.
It can also happen before a
iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.
Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-
seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
Testing lang. (tama ba un?! ang sakit
Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.
Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-
doon sa boy/girl (sabi niya makikipag-
siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa),
wala muna kayong relasyon para nga
naman hindi siya nangangaliwa
kasi “hindi naman kayo.”
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a
can be fun.
Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman
Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may
patutunguhan kayo kze wala talagang
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman
sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
Iba’t ibang dahilan.
Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng “buti na iyan kesa wala” or
puwede na iyang “pantawid-gutom.”
Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think that
relationship is better than no
It would be fun, if all you’re after
is that “kilig”
But then I learned that although it was
only a pseudo-relationship, the
And usually, in this kind of set up,
“ung nainlove sa taong taken na..”
Una, you can’t ask him/her to commit.
Since it’s not really a relationship,
DEMAND COMMITMENT from your partner.
Ano ba kayo?
You will always be uncertain
about your role in his/her life.
You can’t expect him/her
to be always there with you.
And if you feel jealous of the other
you just have to keep it to yourself.
Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if
you fall deeply in love with him/her?
You can’t be sure if he/she feels the
Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.
Even if you are dying
to tell him/her you love him/her,
Because you’re not sure
if he/she will like it.
Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the relationship.
Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached
What if you have invested
all your emotions and this man/woman
What if you remain faithful to him/her,
not entertaining other guys/gals,
only to find out that he/she is seeing
isa pang downside ng pseudo-
relaionships, it is fleeting
when a disagreement sets in,
or when one of you gets cold,
then that would be the end of it.
Unlike in a serious relationship
hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa
wla kang ping-hahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo-relationship,
there is no “us”.
Meron lang “you and Me”,
taken from: Carcalvin (http://carcalvin.multiply.com), thanks bro.